by Helen McConnell | Aug 29, 2012
The wind of Life has been blowing hard lately. I’m talking about Life’s constant change. Sometimes it seems like a gentle breeze. And sometimes it feels like a windless day. But lately, it’s felt like a blustery Fall afternoon. I don’t want to get blown over, so I’m leaning into it. I’ve had a series of epiphanies about Life, including my long-time desire to blame things on others. Nope. No more. I’m taking 100% Accountability for my Life – my actions and my results, past, present and future. Life happens – in a most complex and intricate manner. And a series of choices has gotten me (and you!) to this very point. Yep! Every day we make choices – left, right; yes, no; stay, go; go with the flow, resist; Write a blog post, make a marketing call.
And here I am. And here you are!
by Helen McConnell | Aug 28, 2012
How often do you wish there were more hours in a day? Do you feel like you just have too much to do? Perhaps its because your personal energy is leaking. It happens to everyone.
Here’s a tip that will shore up some of your energy leaks, give you more free time, and help you feel more focused and positive: Stop complaining. Yep. It’s that simple. No more complaining. Simple, but not easy for most. You’re gonna have to monitor yourself every day for awhile, to overcome the habit of complaining. It is a habit. A deep-seated habit.
How many times a day do you complain? “There was a lot of traffic.” “The bus was late.” “It’s so hot!” “Can you believe this rain?” “I have, like, 100 emails in my inbox!” “My daughter needs me to bake 4 dozen cookies tonight.” “My feet hurt.” “My back hurts.” “My head hurts.” “Can you believe what she did?” “My husband has a cold.” “The copy machine is on the fritz again!” And that’s before 10:00 a.m.
Complaining is one of the things that’s sucking your positive energy. Because complaining is a negative pleasure. We love to complain. We love to rally people around us – so they can complain, too, or just feel sorry for us. And yet, we know that complaining never does any good. I know some of you will argue about that – like when you complain about your meal, and the restaurant buys your dessert. We’ll address that in a later post.
Are you up for the 30-day challenge? No complaining for 30 days. When someone complains to you, you need to change the subject, say nothing, or walk away. You don’t get to initiate any complaints yourself. It’s gonna be tough. If you catch yourself in a complaint, you start the 30 days again. Kinda scary, isn’t it?
After 30 days, when not complaining is your new habit, you will be AMAZED at how much positive personal energy you’ll have access to. And this is just the tip of the energy iceberg. More to follow.
by Helen McConnell | Aug 22, 2012
The topic of God often makes people uncomfortable. That’s not my intention. I honor whoever or whatever you believe in (or don’t believe in). My reference here to God, is not from a religious standpoint, but rather, a spiritual one.
My understanding of God/Infinite Source/Universal Mind has been a work-in-progress for my entire life – 55 years, so far. Coincidentally, or not, my understanding of God has changed as my understanding of myself has changed. My current understanding of God is this: I am of God – an extension of God. You are of God, too.
My God is NEVER condescending. My God doesn’t even have to forgive, because my God never judges me – or YOU. I never fear the God of my understanding. My God has a boundless sense of humor. I don’t attach a gender to my God because then you might feel excluded. My God wants me to have every good thing I can imagine. And being all-seeing, all-knowing, and infinite-source, God can make my dreams and desires manifest. As soon as I stop doubting. If you aren’t satisfied with your God for any reason, feel free to use mine.
I am always connected to God, but sometimes I forget on a conscious level. Since I’m always connected, and you’re always connected, and everyone is always connected, we have access to all information, all resources (manifest and unmanifest), all answers to all questions.
I believe God talks to us. To each and every one of us. In a multitude of ways. And I believe God wants us to listen. God is infinitely patient and kind, so is willing to say the same things over and over, in a variety of ways (more on this in a future post). God lets us learn all the things we came here to learn, in our own good time. Ultimately, God wants us to learn love. Love. LOVE.
The God of my understanding is the most incredibly loving being. More loving than I can imagine. Infinite love. God is so loving that it almost hurts to contemplate, because I am so far from embodying that depth of love. And yet, every once in awhile I get an inkling of it – I am so filled with love for everyone and everything, that I walk on air – my heart filled with, well, LOVE! In those moments, I see only love in everyone and everything I encounter. THAT is a God experience, a spiritual experience, a oneness-with-all-creation experience. And then the moment passes, and I’m back to being just plain old human again.
by Helen McConnell | Aug 20, 2012
Each of us has the power to change the world.
When we change ourselves, we start a ripple effect that changes everything and everyone.
We are, each of us, perfect in this moment, of course. But we are human and so we think human thoughts, and do human things. This is where the power of change lies.
Most of our thoughts emanate from our sub-conscious, or unconscious mind. It is difficult, if not impossible to control and change these. But we can begin to become aware of our conscious thoughts, and change the ones that don’t serve us, until they create new neural pathways in the brain. When we change our thoughts, our emotions change. And our actions change. And our energy changes.
Negative thoughts about other people, in the form of judgement, jealousy, fear, anger, etc. are damaging – to the other person, and to the person thinking them. Sometimes we feel so justified! They deserve it! But these thoughts do damage to us. When you catch yourself thinking judgmental thoughts about someone else, reframe those thoughts into loving and compassionate ones. Example: “She is such a know-it-all!” into “I can see the little girl in her – craving attention. I can give her that.”
Negative thoughts about ourselves do obvious damage to our self-esteem, to our power, to our motivation. And negative self-thoughts send out an energy that attracts more things to feel bad about. When you are thinking or saying thoughts like “god, I’m so stupid,” or “no one likes me,” or “I’m so fat!”, ask yourself if you would say these things to your dearest friend, or to a child. Of course you wouldn’t! So why do you say them to YOU? Now is the time to stop the negative self-thoughts and start honoring and loving YOU! The longer you practice this, the deeper you will get into your mind, and soon, negative self-talk will no longer be running you, and love will fill your life.
So begin with YOU. Be the cause of that wonderful ripple effect. Change the world!
by Helen McConnell | May 4, 2012
DAILY FEAR AND DOUBT TAPPING SCRIPT:
Set Up:
Tapping continually on the Karate Chop point.
Even though I feel fear and doubt about stepping into my power and living my dreams, I love and accept myself, and I honor my feelings
Even though I sometimes get stopped in my tracks by my own self-doubt, I can’t stuff these dreams down any longer. And I love and accept myself and honor all my feelings.
Even though I’m so afraid sometimes, that my heart races and my stomach feels queasy, I feel like I’m close to something big, and I honor my mixed feelings about it
Then, Tapping the Points (I begin at Eyebrow, and end at Top of Head):
I’m stuck and I’m scared
What was I thinking?
What made me think I could make a difference?
I’m going to fail – again
I’m about to run out of money
I’ll be broke
Alone
I’ll be miserable
This is awful!
I’ll feel so foolish!
People will judge me
They’ll say “See, I told you you were crazy to try this
It will be so embarrasing
I’m scared
Terrified
I’m afraid I’ll fail
I could just give up. Maybe I should.
I could get a job
Go for little dreams
Same old dreams
The easy ones
The boring ones
That would be safe
Best to be safe and not take these risks
Taking risks is scary
I feel like an outsider
If I play it safe, no one will criticize me
No one will be jealous
I don’t have to change
I wouldn’t have to step out of my comfort zone
I can take the easy way
I don’t have to grow
I don’t have to use my gifts
No one will care
Ok. I like that idea
I didn’t really want to be awesome anyway
Take a deep breath. Then…
Begin Tapping the Points Again:
Not!
That’s so not true!
I DO want to be awesome.
I do want to inspire people
I like taking risks
I have big dreams
I’ll take the chance of failure
I’ll risk people’s criticism
Cause I can no longer consider the other options
I’ve come too far. I’m in it now
I so deserve this!
I am awesome
AND I have gifts to share
People need me and my gifts
They would miss out if I don’t share my gifts
I know I’m scared and have doubts
But I’m determined to use that fear and doubt energy to my advantage
Capture that energy and use it for my good
I know how to do this
I’ve felt my power before. And I liked it!
I want to share my gifts and live my purpose
I know it’s not safe to change. Safe is boring
I’m changing, and it feels GOOD!
Risk is exciting
I’m worth the risk
My dreams are worth the risk
I’m going for it, no matter what
I will only fail if I DON’T go for it
If I’m not persistent
I’ve got to keep stretching and growing
I’ve got to live my purpose
And give my gifts
The world is waiting
The Universe is supporting me
And I’m going for it
I’m a little scared
That means I’m doing something new and exciting
I’m stepping outside my comfort zone
I’m gathering all this negative fear and doubt energy
And channeling it to step into my power
I’ll turn fear energy into action energy
I’ll turn doubt energy into courage energy
I feel alive!
And I am going to be my best self
This is awesome!
Deep Cleansing Breath
