I’ve often wondered if I could figure out a set of “core issues” that could help me help my clients to get fast-track results. Not everyone is ready for speedy changes, but some people who find their way to me are really wanting to make some big shifts.
I’ve worked with hundreds of clients one-to-one, and hundreds more in group settings. And I’ve done, and continue to do, my own “inner work.” I work on my own and with other practitioners, because it’s impossible to see my own stuff. I need someone to help me see what I’m missing.
There is one fairly common “issue” that affects almost everyone (if not absolutely everyone) I’ve done EFT with. And that is Personal Power. Personal Power is about knowing who you are. It’s about being authentic. Personal Power is about “power to” [do things]; not “power over” [other people]. It’s about not trying to be someone you’re not so that someone else will love you. It’s about having the strength and the determination to stand in your inner power at all times. It means having the courage to be vulnerable – not hard-assed. When you are in your power, you won’t need to tell anyone or prove it to anyone.
You may be giving your mental power away by thinking, over and over, about some past event. You’re wasting a lot of energy, and likely keeping yourself from accomplishing things you want to accomplish – because someone is getting your power.
Would you like to get your power back? Would you like to be in charge of your personal results? Here’s an exercise to help you determine who you’re giving your power away to, and what you can do to get your power back. It might be someone in your life currently, or someone from your past. Start by mentally scanning your life – from current to earliest memories. Scan quickly, but not too quickly; slowly, but not too slowly. Don’t stop on any event, but notice WHO you shrink in front of. WHO you stay quiet in front of. WHO you can’t be authentic in front of. Is there someone (past or present) who’s anger makes you want to hide? Was there a parent, or parents, who were tyrants? Or on the flipside, parent or parents who never set any boundaries? Were you ignored by your parents? Were you abandoned? Have you been trying so hard to win someone’s approval? Do you resist sharing your true self in intimate relationships? Do your kids “rule the roost?” Do you try to control your kids’ lives and futures? These are all ways we give our power away, or take it from others (which is the other side of the same coin).
Write down any and all names that come up in the life scan. Next to each name, rate the intensity (0-10) of “How much I give away my power to this person.” Then go here to watch a short video, and tap along about “Even though I give my power away…” After each round of Tapping, be sure to write down the new intensity number. When one person’s number gets to a 0, 1 or 2, move on to the next person. After you tap on a few of the people on your list, the rest will likely “generalize”- lose their intensity without tapping, as a result of their common emotional threads with the others.
