Being Introverted is a Natural state for some of us. It means we are thoughtful, sometimes analytical, and we are often very sensitive. Being shy, on the other hand, is a “learned” response, and is not necessarily synonymous with being Introverted. There are, in fact, shy Extroverts, and calm Introverts. There are Extroverts who are afraid to speak in front of a crowd, but other than that, they are not “shy” at all. Some Introverts are fine in front of a crowd, but clam up when it comes to one-on-one conversation.
Western culture has historically looked down on Introverts, and raised Extroverts up as heros. I believe that’s starting to change, and I’d like to help with the conversion! I don’t mean to imply that Introverts should overcome their thoughtfulness, and become outgoing and gregarious. What I mean is that our heroes can be thoughtful, creative, analytical, “in their head” kind of people. Introverts make exceptional leaders, especially when they are honored for their natural abilities. Introverts are generally great planners, and can be very detail-oriented. They generally need time alone to “recharge their batteries.” This can seem unusual in an environment that is used to having the energy of an Extroverted leader. If an Introverted Manager or CEO has an Extroverted Executive Assistant, together they can create even more success than an Extroverted Manager with an Introverted Assistant. I’ve seen this firsthand.
As children, we were often labeled from the get-go, and not always in a positive light. “You’re too loud.” “You’re too shy.” “Smile more!” “Don’t talk so much.” “Just DO it!” “Get your head out of the clouds.” And on and on. I think that Introverts suffer more because often they are quiet by nature, thoughtful, and attentive to details. So when an outgoing Extrovert comes along and says “Let’s get this done!” and proceeds to bulldoze through a project, the Introvert can be left feeling “less than,” “unappreciated,” and “overlooked.” Whereas, an Extrovert might say “Hey, I don’t like the way you’re doing that – let’s try it my way,” the Introvert often holds back from commenting, and ends up being overlooked.
I’m an Extrovert, and I’m talking about honoring the best in everyone. Let’s begin to see each person’s finest qualities and abilities, and know that the world needs each kind of person. A great leadership team is made up of both Introverts and Extroverts, and each person’s talents are maximized.
Now, if you’re shy, or afraid of speaking in front of a crowd, or if talking one-on-one makes you queasy, and if those things cause you anxiety, or keep you from accomplishing your dreams, I can help. Using EFT, I’d love to overcome your anxiety, and help you learn to “Speak Your Truth – Authentically!” I am in awe of how an Introverted speaker can capture the attention of a room with her quiet, calmness. And when an Extrovert overcomes their shyness, watch out, world! EFT is the BEST anti-anxiety, anti-stress prescription I’ve ever used. It’s easy, gentle, effective, powerful, and permanent. Call me if you’d like to learn more.
As I finished writing this post, I was sent this link. It’s like instructions for how to interact with an Introvert. Check it out!
