Me and my daughter Gen at Salmon Creek Beach, Sonoma.
The FIRST key to creating GREAT relationships with others is to create a GREAT relationship with yourself. Part of you already knows this is true. If we don’t love ourselves, we can’t give and receive love from others. If we don’t have good communication skills with ourselves, we won’t have good communication skills with others.
If we’re not healthy on our own, we won’t be healthy in relationship. In fact, relationships magnify who we are. The most intense version of relationship is usually an intimate one, but this applies to all types of relationships – any interactions we have with other humans.
I used to think that if I met the “right” man and we fell in love, that all my problems and insecurities would disappear. As it happened (and not just once, but over and over), my insecurities were heightened whenever I was in a relationship, and my “problems” got more complicated. I didn’t have a good relationship with myself, so I attracted men who didn’t have a good relationship with themselves. We mirrored each other, and we didn’t have the tools to deal with what we saw. Thanks to tapping, I’ve developed, and continue to develop, a great relationship with myself. My relationships with my family have greatly improved, and I’m much more comfortable and confident with friends and colleagues. And the Universe has given me lots of time and tools and experiences to practice what I’m learning!
So begin to strengthen your relationship with yourself. If you’re already in good relationships with others, this work may help make them great relationships. If you’re in great relationships, you can take them to the next level by enhancing your relationship with YOU. If you’re in mediocre relationships, this work may raise the level of the relationships, or it may give you the courage to move on. After all, you deserve GREAT relationships!
Here’s an audio tap-along to begin to improve your self-relationship.
