Last time, we talked about Complaining. Or rather, NOT complaining. How is that working? It’s difficult, isn’t it? When a client experiences difficulty in letting it go of something they recognize as not-productive, it tells me that it is a deeply rooted habit. We complain to gain sympathy, to direct attention away from ourselves, and for a variety of other, unproductive reasons. All that energy spent complaining! And then we complain that there just aren’t enough hours in the day!
Well, there are other ways we leak our Personal Energy. Today let’s take a look at Gossip. Oooh, Gossip! Did you SEE what she’s wearing? Can you believe he’s sleeping with HER? Did you hear that John got laid off? Gossip, in it’s straightforward form, is just telling stories behind someone’s back. It’s not only not productive, it’s often vicious, and it can be harmful to you and to others. Gossip comes in a different form – the one that pretends to be kind, and pretends to be merely informative. Like, Go easy on her, Susan’s husband left her. Or, David is out sick this week – he’s got the flu. It sounds nice, sort of, but it’s really destructive. It’s not your information to share, and yet there you are, telling all. Whatever the form, Gossip is a HUGE waste of your energy. So if you’re complaining that you don’t have enough time and energy to do everything you want to do and need to do, I invite you to consider that your Personal Energy is Leaking, and you CAN shore it up.
Now I’ve given you two things that suck your energy and create a negative atmosphere. Complaining and Gossip. And I’m inviting you to consider giving them up. Cold turkey. Catch yourself before you speak: is this my information to share? Is there any good reason for me to share this? Could I find a solution, rather than complain? If you’re not willing, or able to give them up, you may have unconscious resistance. We can tap on Complaining. We can tap on Gossiping. And we can tap on the resistance to giving up gossip and complaining. I bet it will be an eye-opening experience that will lead to more tappable issues!
