This time of year, most people have very full calendars, they run around crazy, they overindulge in food, drink and spending, and they really don’t enjoy the moments. Then at the end of December, society (at least in the US) has a collective hangover. If you’re in the Northern Hemisphere, nature will tell you that this time of year is about slowing down, taking a break, warming your insides with homemade broth. It’s a time to sleep more and meditate more and DO less. So if you’re running around, you’re really pushing against everything Natural. Can you feel it?
So take a break. Give the gift of Love. Love others more. Love yourself more. Send Love out into the ether – to all those who are suffering. Not just suffering because they are victims, but because they have victimized others. Love is healing. Love doesn’t cost anything or take any additional time.
If you’re feeling lonely this season, you’re not alone! But consider these words, penned by a very wise young woman I know. Her name is Lillian Weber. She writes a blog and often people comment with questions, so Lillian becomes kind of a “wisdom/advice columnist.” One of her readers wrote in, telling of a broken heart and her loneliness. Lillian’s words to her were profound. Here’s an excerpt:
…But you aren’t alone. You have your family, and you have your friends, and you have the internet. Most importantly, you also have you, and I gotta tell you that being your own best friend is this weird, lonely, kind of awesome thing. Like I don’t quite know how to describe it except that I feel fond of myself in the same way I feel fond of my best friends, like I like what I have to say and I think I’m funny and I love my outfits and I want to talk to myself about my day and see what I have to say about it. And I think that’s something that when you’re first alone (not alone) feels like a thing you HAVE to do–become best friends with yourself. But the further you get in, the more it feels like a thing you GET to do.”
Can you imagine a world where everyone loves themselves and enjoys themselves and is their own BFF? It doesn’t mean we can’t have other BFFs. But we’d be a whole lot happier to begin with, and so we’d be much better friends to others. Begin to love yourself. Tap on your resistance to loving yourself. This is the most important tapping you will ever do!
Take a moment, right now and go look in the mirror. Look yourself right in the eyes, and say “Hi! It’s really good to see you!” Smile at yourself, and notice how beautiful your eyes are. You may find this very emotional. That’s a good thing. Learn to love yourself! Acknowledge and appreciate yourself. Encourage yourself by saying things like, “I know you’re doing the best that you can.” Learn to become your own Best Friend.
