I found myself irritated at a friend recently, and couldn’t quite figure out where my irritation arose from. Here’s the process I used to get to the bottom of my irritation and clear it. This may help you too, when you find yourself irritated and you don’t really know the root cause.
At first I found myself wanting to blame the other person – I had a mental conversation about what had happened, and I was doing some “Well, you did this…” kind of thinking. But, like I’m always saying, “When I blame someone else, it makes ME a victim!” And I don’t want to be a victim. So I searched deeper. And deeper still. What I finally discovered is that I had said “yes” to something when I really wanted to say “no”. And out of this, a whole series of events spiraled, leading me to feel irritated and frustrated.
Here’s a Tapping routine to use when you’ve given away your power by saying “yes,” when you really wanted to say “no.” (Or vice-versa).
Tapping on the Karate Chop Point:
ET (Even Though) I said yes when I wanted to say no, ID&CL&AM (I Deeply & Completely Love & Accept Myself)
ET I really wish I’d stood my ground and said NO!, but I gave in and said Yes, ID&CL&AM
ET I feel like I gave my power away, and I want it back and it feels like it’s too late, ID&CL&AM
Then Tapping through the points, beginning at the Top of the Head, and Tapping one point for each phrase:
-I said “yes”
-When I wanted to say “No!”
-I’m frustrated with myself
-I thought I was stronger
-But I didn’t stand my ground
-I wanted to be “nice”
-I didn’t want to hurt anyone’s feelings
-But I ended up hurting myself
-I’ve been beating myself up
-And that hurts me even more
-I feel like I should know better than to say “yes” when I want to say “no”
-I choose to stop beating myself up
-I choose to forgive myself for saying “yes” when I wanted to say “No!”
-I choose to learn from this
-I choose to grow from this
-I choose to stand strong in my own power
-Saying “No” when I mean no
-& saying “Yes” when I mean yes
-Are the basic ways I take care of myself
-I forgot this time to take care of ME
-I was trying to please someone else
-I didn’t want to make them feel bad
-And I ended up feeling bad
-But I’m releasing this now, and choosing to learn
Now take a deep breath in and out.
Next time you feel irritated or angry, ask yourself what the root of the irritation really is. Go deep. If you’re irritated, it’s your problem. And usually when we’re irritated about something someone did or didn’t do, it’s because we have an old hurt that we haven’t cleared up. This Tapping routine will help get you started on clearing that hurt, using “Borrowed Benefits.” That means that even if the words in this routine don’t match your words or your “story,” you can tap along, and your subconscious mind will know what to do with the words!
