Remember that character from SNL? She could find something negative to say in any situation. We all know someone who is a bummer to be around. Someone who sees the glass as half-empty – or totally empty. It may be a family member, or someone you work with. And we all get sucked into that mindset of complaining or judging – especially when we’re around others who do it.
The Law of Attraction reminds us that “What we focus on, we get more of.” So yes, if I’m complaining, it attracts more things into my life to complain about.
-”But I have to complain sometimes, don’t I!” I can hear the collective outcry. I’ve said it myself. The answer is a resounding “No!.” And yet, I still find myself complaining sometimes. This is a deep habit that is personal, familial, and cultural. We LOVE to complain! It makes us feel like part of the crowd.
-”But what if I get bad service in a restaurant – don’t I have the right to complain?” Here’s the answer: Complaining is not the same thing as feedback. You can give genuine and helpful feedback – directly to your server is optimal, and not in front of anyone else. You can tip accordingly. You can mention it to the manager. Then you can drop it. You have a right to do whatever you want about it. Ask yourself why you feel compelled to tell everyone you know about the bad service you received at such-and-such a Bistro. The more emotion you put into complaining, the stronger that energy will come boomerang-ing back to YOU!
Own your own reality. You create your reality, so you might ask yourself how you created that bad service, or whatever else you’re complaining about. If you’re complaining about a problem you feel powerless to solve, know this: You are giving away a tremendous amount of power and energy. Take that energy back, and aim it at something positive – something you believe in! Like creating a new business, writing a book, starting an organization that does amazing things in the world, etc.
